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GO LOOK IN THE MIRROR.
ARE YOU THE WOMAN A HUSTLER/CHEATER/
ABUSER IS SEARCHING FOR?
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Have you ever analyzed, dissected and asked yourself why you repeatedly get into relationships with hustlers, cheaters and abusers? Or do you just automatically blame the MAN?
All of us have a relationship horror story or two or twelve or forty where we chose the wrong guy and, whether it was financial, emotional, mental, sexual or physical … there was “abusive” hell to pay. If you have a couple of bad stories with HUSTLERS, CHEATERS or ABUSERS, and you learned your lessons, cool; nobody’s perfect. But if you have a pattern or track record with them, STOP! Sit Down!
Instead of you rushing out and finding the next “short-term” man that’s going to hustle you, cheat on you or abuse you … it might be time for you to sit quietly, examine, study and ask yourself, “WHY do I keep “attracting” and “hooking up” with these type of men? How are they able to detect my weaknesses? Are they “seeing something” in me that I don’t see? Am I so hungry, lonely and desperate for a relationship that I’m emotionally and sexually “jumping in there” with men too quickly? Is something wrong with me? WHY am I the woman a Hustler/Cheater/Abuser is searching for?”
There is ONE purpose to this chapter: to make SURE you get to the point where you can say to a Hustler, Cheater or Abuser, “I know who YOU are so keep it moving. I’m NO LONGER the woman you are SEARCHING for … unless I CHOOSE to be!”
With THAT said, get your journal (DON’T leave it lying around where nosy people can read it) and your tea or wine because, instead of you forever complaining “there are no good men out there,” we’re going to study YOU, YOUR track record and YOUR relationship choices.
WHERE ARE YOU IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP LIFE?
As little girls, we were taught that if we grew up to be sweet, good, classy and SEXY women (but not too sexually demanding or insatiable) … we would land our “dream man” who would take care of us … (but we were told to educate ourselves so we could get a good job in case he didn’t!) … and love and commit to ONLY us … and to keep him satisfied in bed to make sure he didn’t get sex from a “homewrecker” who knew he was married.
Okay, you followed this advice but … where do you find yourself NOW in your “relationship” LIFE? Are you SINGLE and successful and trying to chase down your career … AND make yourself visually appealing, sexy and “not too much work for a man” so you can “line up” and compete with all the other single women (like y’all are on the playground trying to be “picked” for dodge ball!) trying to CHASE DOWN a commitment/marriage from any ol’ piece of an eligible man (who doesn’t have HALF of what you’ve got!) … AND while doing all of this, you’re trying to CHASE DOWN child support from your child’s father … who CONSTANTLY gives you a stomach ulcer … and you’re WORN OUT from all this got-dang CHASING?
Or, do you find yourself MARRIED and working a job, draggin’ kids to daycare, cooking, cleaning, looking haggard and robot-ish, being emotionally, verbally and/or physically abused … and having to have creative sex with your man to keep him “sexually interested and at home” when you feel about as sexy and sexless as a dried out slug … because you still haven’t gotten over the mean and hurtful things he said to you in the last argument … AND because you’re suspicious and mad at him for coming home so late after nights out with “the boys?” (And then when he DOES get home, he wants you to do sex tricks and you want to scream at him, “WHY do I have to do sex tricks when you know I have to go to work in the morning? Can I please do sex tricks on the weekend after I get back from the crowded grocery store?”)
Whatever “relationship” status you are … do you ever ask yourself, “What the hell did I do wrong? Did Cinderella ever go through this “crap?”” (I’m sure Cinderella did go through that “uh, crap,” they just left that part of the story out! (smile))
It is my opinion that … YOUR RELATIONSHIP CHAOS IS MAKING YOU THE IDEAL, PERFECT WOMAN FOR A HUSTLER/CHEATER/ABUSER.
Hear me out first before you start yelling at me! (laughing) Sorry to be so blunt but … Hustlers/Cheaters/Abusers are on the HUNT, they are on the PROWL and they are SEARCHING for a well-trained, “good to the WRONG man” woman like you. And, girl, you are RIPE to be plucked by them. You are like an overripe peach, just BURSTING to give your fruit and your juices, just ITCHING to be deliciously devoured … because you are presenting yourself as being sooooo ready and soooo ripe to be “picked.”
Hustlers/Cheaters/Abusers can smellllll your ripeness from five miles down the road. And you’re so RIPE and READY that YOU can’t even tell that he’s a Hustler/Cheater/Abuser at first because they come sooooo well-dressed, smelling sooooo good, talking what you wanna hear, sex-ing you like CRAZY in the bedroom … and they present themselves to you like a “GOOD MAN.”
A Hustler/Cheater/Abuser needs a certain type of woman. He must have the type of weak chick that will be drawn in by his slick tongue and dangling “professions of love, a commitment and marriage” in front of her … like a carrot in front of a horse … and then she will hang in there and allow him to hustle her, cheat on her and/or abuse her. He MUST have the type of chick that will become addicted to him, powerless to walk away … and make him her “crack” or “meth” drug … and he can treat her how he wants cos she has allowed herself to get “fixated” on him cos she believes he can offer her that “commitment and marriage, kids and house with a white picket fence” world. That’s the chick that he is searching for.
A HUSTLER/CHEATER & ABUSER MUST HAVE THE TYPE OF WOMAN THAT WILL FOLLOW THIS GAME PLAN:
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1. Hustler/Cheater/Abuser (H/C/A) will do “something awful” to you. You will YELL, FIGHT, COMPLAIN, BE ANGRY at him … talk, talk, vent, vent to all your friends about WHAT HE’S “DOING” TO YOU and ask “what does it mean when a man does THIS?”relationship advice … your H/C/A will promise not to do it again … he will take you to dinner or buy you a gift or promise you a committed relationship or give you HOT-ASS sex … you forgive him and tell your friends to stay out of your relationship … everything’s fine until …
2. Hustler/Cheater/Abuser (H/C/A) will do “something awful” to you AGAIN. You will YELL, FIGHT, BITCH, BE ANGRY at him … youwill BRING YOUR FRIENDS BACK INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP cos you’ve “fallen out” with your H/C/A … you will talk, talk, vent, vent to all your friends about WHAT HE’S “DOING” TO YOU and again ask “what does it mean when a man does THIS?”relationship advice … your H/C/A will promise not to do it again … he buys you a gift or re-commits to the relationship or gives you HOT-ASS sex … you forgive him and tell your friends to STAY OUT of your relationship … everything’s fine until …
3. Hustler/Cheater/Abuser (H/C/A) will do “something awful” to you AGAIN. You will YELL, FIGHT, BITCH, COMPLAIN, BE ANGRY at him … you will BRING YOUR FRIENDS BACK INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE, NOW THAT YOU’VE “FALLEN OUT” WITH YOUR H/C/A AGAIN, YOU NOW HAVE TIME FOR THEM AGAIN. NOW YOU NEED THEIR FRIENDSHIP AGAIN, NOW YOU NEED THEM TO “BE THERE” FOR YOU AGAIN … (AND THEY ARE … AFTER YOU HAVE APOLOGIZED FOR IGNORING THEM WHEN THINGS ARE GOING GOOD WITH YOUR H/C/A) … you will talk, talk, talk, vent, vent, vent to them about what he’s “done” to you THIS time and ask “what does it mean when a man does THIS?” “Is he trying to emotionally control me through his moods?” “What do you think I did wrong THIS time?” relationship advice … your H/C/A will promise not to do it again … he buys you a gift or proposes to you or gives you HOT-ASS sex or affection … you forgive him and tell your friends to get out your relationshipcos you’ve got a “GOOD MAN” and he’s your best chance for marriage right now; that he only has a couple of faults that you need to overlook and you’re going to stick by him and if they had a man as good as yours, they would understand! Everything’s fine until …
ON and ON and ON and ON and ON and ON …..
Aren’t you TIRED of reading that? Well, your friends are tired of that foolishness too … cos they feel they’re wasting their time giving you advice when they know you’re going to do NOTHING but bitch and complain (and blame them for being “non-supportive” when they offer a listening “ear” but no advice). Your friends really want to tell you:
“If you want that man so bad that you’re willing to put up with his abuse and mistreatment of you, FINE! But do the rest of us have to listen to you dissect his behavior for hours on end? Do you have any conversation other than that man? Also, we as your friends are tired of agreeing with you and taking your side that he’s horrible or abusive and then have to feel uncomfortable at the cookout when y’all “make up” and you and he are “all hugged up” again and you’re flaunting his “wonderful-ness” to our face and defending HIM when we roll our eyes! Because, when he leaves you, it will be US, your friends that you tossed aside when things were going good with him, who will be there to convince you that, YES, you are strong enough to stay away from his abusive ass and we will be there to listen to you sing loudly to the world your bitter, angry, “HE Done Me Wrong!” song!
That’s why it PAINS me to say: “There will ALWAYS be a woman for a Hustler/Cheater/Abuser.” An “H/C/A” will always be able to find an “emotionally damaged” chick that will follow his gameplan. She will get into a relationship with him, continually swallow her pain and self-respect, overlook everything and drive herself crazy trying to figure out how she can change HIM so her life can be better.
Again, SOMEBODY IS GOING TO BE THAT CHICK!!! SOMEBODY IS GOING TO FOLLOW AN H/C/A’s GAMEPLAN! DON’T YOU WANT TO MAKE SURE YOU ARE NOT THAT CHICK EVER AGAIN? … UNLESS YOU CHOOSE TO BE HER?
FROM WHERE YOU ARE NOW … LET’S SEE IF YOU ARE THE WOMAN A HUSTLER/CHEATER & ABUSER IS SEARCHING FOR.
As women, some of the “Relationship Horrors” and “Baby Daddy Drama” we find ourselves in … WE BRING IT ON OURSELVES … and then we want to blame the guy for the “relationship hot-mess” we’re in instead of admitting that we chose to ignore the “red flags,” signs and early warnings that fool gave us! We choose a fool and then we want to blame him for being a fool! We Hate To Admit that we were fore-warned, that we explained away the “red flags” … and we kept talking ourselves INTO staying with a fool!
Why do we hate admitting we went ahead and chose the wrong man? Because then folks would look at us as if we were stupid and not too bright … and RESPONSIBLE for our being used, hustled and abused! They’d look at us like, “Of ALL the millions of men in the world, you chose one that is an abusive hustler. You don’t make good choices, do you?” Who wants to be looked at like that?
So … admit it … it’s just so much easier to blame the man and make ourselves look like a VICTIM by saying, “Oh, he wasn’t like this in the beginning. He wasn’t like this when I first met him!” (OH, YES HE WAS LIKE THAT!!!! You were so caught up with his GOOD qualities and JUMPING INTO A RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE … you were so impressed with his “flowers, romancing you and having a man in your bed” … that you IGNORED his WANDERING EYE, his ANGRY TEMPER and his excessive love of ALCOHOL!)
It sounds sweeter and more romantic to say you are with a HUSTLER/CHEATER/ABUSER because “you were sooooo in love”rather than saying, “He was showering me with money and gifts, he started off treating me like he respected me, he said all the right things I wanted to hear, I wanted to be in a relationship with him and get married, he treated me GREAT when he wasn’t drunk or out “ho-ing around,” … so I hung in there and kept forgiving him for cheating on me and slapping the crap out of me every once in a while … because I was “blindly praying” that one day he would realize what a good woman I am … and CHANGE.” Heavy sigh.
IT’S TIME TO FACE YOURSELF … And Take This Test to find out if you’re the woman a Hustler/Cheater/Abuser is searching for. Let’s see if you’re that SHEEP who walks up to a WOLF and says, “Here I Am! I’m The Weak, Ignore-Everything-To-Be-Loved, Do-To-Me-What-You-Want, Sheep You Were Searching For! I’m in it for the long haul! Hustle/Cheat/Abuse ME!”
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“ARE YOU THE WOMAN A HUSTLER/CHEATER & ABUSER IS SEARCHING FOR?” ***TEST!!***
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Do you snootily say to men that you’re a “classy, educated, independent woman with a good job, her own place and car and you don’t need a man cos you can do it all yourself?” (Yes Or No)
(NOTE: As I have said before, just because you have five college degrees does NOT mean you have been educated and know the mind and INNER WORKINGS of a hustler. Being “BOOK SMART” and “WOLF/HUSTLER SMART” are NOT the same thing! (Unless, of course, the BOOK is THIS one!) That’s why you were hustled, used and abused in the past and that’s why you are a target NOW! Don’t continue to be “Book Smart” but “Wolf DUMB!”)
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Do you meet a man and IMMEDIATELY get all excited, hopeful and starry-eyed TOO quickly … before you find out if he has an anger problem? Do you “keep putting up with”his anger problem because he’s desirable and available, a “good catch” and, you say, “there are so few available men out here?” When you ask your friends about how to handle his escalating temper, does your man find out and say, “Keep on listening to your friends. You’ll find yourself just like they are … ALONE AND WITHOUT A MAN.” Do you keep putting up with his temper cos you DON’T WANT TO BE alone and without a man … and then you say, “Besides, every man has problems and he’s about as good as any man out there.” (Yes Or No) (I pointed this out to you just so you could see how YOU ARE KEEPING YOURSELF in abusive relationships.)
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Do you go overboardtrying to convince a man you’re a good, supportive, “got-his-back” woman? If he doesn’t appreciate your “good woman-ish” and acts a fool, do you ask every man you know for advice on “what men like and think” so you can mold yourself into a person your man will like more? (Yes Or No) (A Hustler/Cheater/Abuser finds it amusing that you spend YOUR time on relationship “chat” websites trying to find out what HE likes and how to please HIM … while he spends HIS time watching the sports channels and hanging out with his buddies at the strip club.)
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Do you find yourself “explaining away” and “ignoring” too much so he won’t leave you … alone, lonely and with kids to support? Do you say to yourself that it’s EASIER to ignore him coming in at 5 in the morning every weekend smelling like booty … than trying to chase him down for child support and find a NEW man to help you take care of your kids? (Yes Or No)
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Do you have a problem with your body, weight or “looks,” so you keep chaing after and loving ANY ol’ guy who pays you any little piece of attention and gives you some affection … but who treats you like dirt … and you open up your heart, legs and wallet so you don’t LOSE that attention and morsels of affection? (Yes Or No)
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Does it seem like the GOOD-er you act, the WORSE your man does … but you keep hanging on in there? Do you blame yourselfwhen HE’s acting a fool … thinking that if you could just FIGURE OUT how to do more and be better, then HE would be better? (Yes Or No) (Note: a Hustler/Cheater/Abuser will NOT treat you right just cos you’re a nice, classy woman. Actually, he disrespects you because you allow him to treat you like trailer trash!)
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Do you give up sex too quickly OR too often OR do a lot of “freaky” crap you’re not comfortable with OR use sex as a way to get a man to like you or to keep a man? (Yes Or No)
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Are you IGNORING the way your guy really is and you’re trying to “CHANGE” him into the man YOU want him to be? For example, are you hoping that if you “put it on him hard enough,” your booty call is going to “fall in love with you”and want a committed relationship with you? (Yes Or No)
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Are you “forcing” the relationship and making demands and ultimatumson him even though he’s unsure and “hems and haws?”(Yes Or No) (NOTE: A Hustler/Cheater/Abuser is NOT impressed with nor “moved by” your threats. You threatening to leave will not make him agree to a committed relationship. If he does agree … (cos you nagged him to death) … he will get back at you by hurting you in some kind of way just to prove to you that you don’t “run” him.)
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Does your guy do something BAD or HORRIBLE, then HE packs his stuff and threatens to leave YOU … and YOU end up being the one apologizing … and crying and begging him to stay … immediately forgiving, totally forgetting or “setting aside” the bad thing he did? (Yes Or No) (He does this because he is EMOTIONALLY hustling you. He is reminding you that HE can live without you but YOU can’t live without him.)
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Do you keep running from one bad relationship to another … without taking the time to study your relationship pattern and figure out what went wrong with the last FIFTEEN men? (Yes Or No)
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In the past, did you get revenge when you found out your man was cheating by “keying” a car or slashing a tire or fighting another woman over that man? (Yes Or No) Other than making you look stupid, did that act of violence change the fact that you STILL WEREN’T WANTED? How did you feel about yourself afterwards?
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Exactly HOW do you choose your men? Based on WHAT? Do you know the 50+ things/questions you MUST ask yourself BEFORE you even consider falling for a guy? (Page 45 in this book.) Do you USE them? (Yes Or No)
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Are you holding on to a bad relationship cos you DON’T WANT TO GIVE UP HIS MONEY AND STATUS? Do you look down your nose in “classy disgust” at the little “hoes and hoochies” who come after your man? (Yes Or No) (NOTE: A Hustler/Cheater/Abuser knows that you will ACCEPT and allow him to constantly disrespect you and cheat on you … cos he knows you will forgive him AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN … after he takes you shoe shopping. He knows you are a SLAVE to his money and to what he’s GOT.)
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Do you ever say about an abusive or “bullcrap” relationship you’re in: “I don’t know WHY I keep putting up with this crap”… but you still “keep putting up with that crap?” (Yes Or No) (NOTE: A Hustler/Cheater/Abuser feels like since all you do is grumble, complain and threaten, why should HE be the one to be inconvenienced and have to exert energy and effort to CHANGE? After all, Life is good, “just lovely” for HIM! You’re the one doing all the nagging!
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Are you afraid to “date again” or “love again” because you have been hurt so many times? (Yes Or No) Do you tell that to EVERY new man you meet? Don’t you think men are TIRED of hearing that by now? I know you know how to FIND a man but you’re scared cos you don’t know how to find the RIGHT man … for YOU … cos you finally realize that EVERY man ain’t for YOU … and you’ve been compromising on TOO MUCH and the WRONG THINGS! (That’s a long sentence but a POWERFUL one! Re-read it a few times to make sure you get it!)
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When you meet a guy, do you present a respectable OUTSIDE IMAGE and start off acting STRONG, CONFIDENT, “IN CONTROL,” “GOT-IT-TOGETHER,” ELUSIVE and MAKING HIM CHASE YOU … BUT … as soon you land him and he starts showing his ass … you change back into your weak, passive, do-anything-to-keep-him, clingy, submissive and insecure self? Does your “classy-on-the-outside” veneer hide an emotionally weak, vengeful, psychotic, vindictive bitch on the inside? (Yes Or No)
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Do you try to pretend to be someone you’re not and change yourself to fit or please the man you’re currently with? DO YOU MAKE YOUR MAN YOUR TOTAL WORLD? Do you refuse to make any plans or make ANY move without checking with your man first … but HE does what the HELL he wants without EVER considering consulting YOU about HIS plans? (Yes Or No)
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Do you look to your man to heal your childhood wounds, to be the REFUGE you need to help you conquer issues from your past, to love YOU and ONLY YOU forever? Is your self-esteem, self-image and self-WORTH based on how your man VIEWS you, THINKS of you and TREATS you? Do you put your man SO HIGH ON A PEDESTAL that he looks DOWN on you and treats you like you ought to be glad to have a man like him? (Yes Or No)
(NOTE: If you’re with a Hustler/Cheater/Abuser, he already knows about your emotional wounds and your low self-image. (More on this later.) That’s why he knows which buttons to push to emotionally reduce you to a limp, slobbering dishrag.)
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Are you in an “open,” “non-committed” relationship with a guy you’ve been with for a while BECAUSE THAT’S WHAT HE WANTS AND NOT YOU? Although you try to play like you’re cool with this situation … HOW DO YOU REALLY FEEL ABOUT THIS? Are you frustrated? De-moralized? Have you stopped seeing other men to focus solely on tying HIM down? Do you make him use a condom when he’s with you? Do you continually ask him about his “other” women? Do you continually tell him that you’re not seeing anyone else … hoping that he’ll be impressed by your loyalty and commitment to him … and do the SAME for you? Like a WELL-TRAINED PUPPY, do you follow HIS rules about when HE can see you? Are you readily available to him … when HE “beckons” you … at HIS convenience? It’s none of my business but … how long are you going to keep letting him use your body for sex? (Yes or No)
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Does it make you feel sad (and MADDER at yourself) that you have made yourself GET USED TO swallowing EXCESSIVE hurt, pain, anger, bitterness, disrespect and abuse? It’s like, you’re so IMMUNE to it, so USED to it, so NUMB to it, that you tell yourself “that crap don’t even hurt anymore?” (Yes Or No)
(NOTE: You will SHAKE OUT of your numbness when your Hustler/Cheater/Abuser announces that HE is leaving YOU. Then you will spend YEARS bitching to your friends and every man you meet about how you were a good woman who hung in there and was done wrong and dumped!)
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So, based on your answers AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP TRACK RECORD …
it should be CLEAR and OBVIOUS to you if you’re the woman a Hustler/Cheater/Abuser is looking for. After you finish reading this book, at least you’ll be able to stand up and proudly hold your head up and clearly say, “I CHOOSE to be that chick,” … or “I choose NOT to be that chick. Let me make the necessary changes to MYSELF.” At least you’ll be able to stop all the time bitching and complaining about your “Relationship Choices.”
***IMPORTANT*** ***SIDE NOTE***:
YOU CAN TRY TO BLAME YOUR PARENTS AND USE THEM AS A SCAPEGOAT FOR CHURNING OUT AND TURNING YOU INTO A DAMAGED WOMAN … BUT YOU’RE NOW AN ADULT … MAKING ADULT DECISIONS … AND WHEN IT’S ALL SAID AND DONE … YOU ARE THE ONE WHO IS CONTINUALLY SUFFERING.
SO, IF A MAN IS HUSTLING YOU, ABUSING YOU OR CHEATING ON YOU, I’M SORRY TO SAY THIS AND YOU MAY NOT LIKE IT BUT, UNLESS YOU ARE PHYSICALLY ENSLAVED … IT’S NOW YOUR OWN DAMN FAULT!!!
I say that because you are still there … present and accounted for! ***END OF IMPORTANT SIDE NOTE!***
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Again …
You Must Accept A Man As He Presents Himself To You … GOOD AND BAD, UGLY FAULTS AND ALL!!! Stop trying to envision him “as he could be.” (WHAT IF HE DOESN’T WANT THE SAME VISION FOR HIMSELF AS YOU WANT FOR HIM?! That’s a powerful sentence. Read it again.)
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Stop trying to “fix” a man
into who you want him to be! (For example, if he’s a drunk, you have to ask yourself: “am I cool with being in a relationship or marriage with a drunk?” Don’t say, “My love for him will make him go to alcohol rehab.” That’s for HIM to do! … (and obviously his ex-girlfriends weren’t able to change him cos HE’S STILL A DRUNK!))
STOP bringing out your Bible and quoting him scriptures on how a man is supposed to act! Stop trying to change HIM!!!!!!!
You are NOT going to change him. HE IS … WHO HE IS! HE IS A WOLF, A HUSTLER/CHEATER/ABUSER, PERIOD. End of sentence. If anything, you will change YOURSELF into a nagging, complaining, suspicious, bitter, “looks down on herself because she allows herself to be disrespected and degraded,” unable to love or trust, “living behind emotional walls,” FURTHER DAMAGED, SELF-MEDICATING, HOT-MESS WRECK! (Was I clear enough?)
A man ain’t doing it to you. YOU’RE DOING IT TO YOURSELF because you KEEP ignoring major crap and jumping on in there anyway … and then COMPLAINING about what you IGNORED.
Now, having said all of that … (and accepting that you are NOT going to change a Hustler/Cheater/Abuser (he has to do that for himself and he’s NOT going to do that until HE decides, “this is no longer working for me.” He’s NOT going to decide that because he knows that there will ALWAYS be a woman for him who will accept his hustling, cheating and abusive behavior)) … let’s go DEEPER and further ANALYZE the kind of woman a Hustler/Cheater/Abuser is SEARCHING FOR so we can MAKE SURE that YOU ARE NOT THAT WOMAN, that you are NOT his PRIME TARGET … again, unless you CHOOSE to be.
IN ORDER TO “DO WHAT HE DOES,” A HUSTLER/CHEATER & ABUSER MUST HAVE A LOW
SELF-ESTEEM, “YES, YOU CAN DO THAT TO ME,”
UN-HEALED WOMAN.
A Hustler/Cheater/Abuser must have a woman who will let him sexually use her, financially hustle her, constantly cheat on her (when they are supposedly in a committed, “ONLY the two of us” relationship) and emotionally, mentally and/or physically abuse her.
In this book, YOU are NOW going to heal yourself so that you do NOT deal with H/C/As again … unless you CHOOSE to. IT’S UP TO YOU TO HEAL YOURSELF. It’s not up to your PAST, PRESENT or FUTURE boyfriends to heal you. It’s up to YOU to heal yourself so you can stop blaming the men in your past for turning you into a bitter, suspicious, hard-shelled, untrusting woman … who can’t have a good “relationship PRESENT“and “relationship FUTURE“cos you’re still letting your “relationship PAST“control you. Because THOSE are the type of women H/C/As and wolves ESPECIALLY search for … the UN-HEALED.
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